“Tell me the truth. Quality or quantity? How do you balance these two?” This question comes from one of our Sex Lies and Consciousness members.
It caused quite a conversation among us. Here are some replies:
Venus Ippi …as for sex, when I was younger I had more desire towards quantity with some vain factors which I considered quality as it is distorted by ego and frivolous plays and when I got older (in my 30′s quality played a bigger role once I got to know myself better and what my desires were – being more true to myself). Now in my 40′s, I am definitely a quality believer (I refuse to lie to myself consciously knowingly and what I am/who I am /what I want)…however, that is for my sex life…other factors as I mentioned is diff…
Venus Ippi ali, I was just also thinking that there may come a time when quantity is important in sex for me but definitely I will be more aware and conscious than I was in my 20′s or 30′s…may be this is the big factor of BALANCE!
Mai Vu I like both for different reasons. I like quality because when i have quality it feels good, honoring, yummy, my princess is satisfied. when i have quantity, it breaks my scarcity mentality. I am less attached, I feel full, i come from full. And when i come from full it’s a whole different world of attraction and creation. when i come from not enough or lack, i am harsh, tough, and easily annoyed. So when i have quality AND quantity, i am in heaven. My spirit soars, and I am at ease, gracious, delightful, and i create amazing abundance.
Matt Garrigan …But we easily forget when we are playing the quality or quantity game. We attach to the outcome, goal etc. If we fail to meet the goal or objective we consider “ourselves to be a failure”, when the truth is, the task, objective, etc failed to happen. When this occurs we are all about us and what we think we want. That is not Abundance (Quality).
Quantity comes out of Authentic Abundance (Quality of Being) because you are not defined by it. There are no shifts in the poles that energetically keep the void open for your request to be filled. You have to want it and not want it at the same time because the outcome has nothing to do with who you already are; Magnificent, Innocent, Intelligent, Whole, Complete and Sound.
Susan Seybert For me, it’s all about what’s in the moment. My desires shift hour by hour. Communication is the key.
Ali Sekhavati ? My sexual mind has two modes of operation. When I am not having sex I think about quantity all the time and then it goes into quality mode while I am having sex.
What about you? How do you weigh in on the question: Quantity or Quality?
If you struggle with having quality or quantity in your life, I invite you to play with me by posting your comment below or email me firstname.lastname@example.org I promise to respond to you personally.